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The Secret to a Good Marriage

I’m writing this on a cross-country flight, and posting it on our 38th wedding anniversary. Both of us had forgotten the date, we’re not celebrating, we’re flying to Miami for a speaking gig on Friday.

However, my wife Vange just showed me this quote from her Real Simple magazine. The title of the story was: "What is The Secret of a Good Marriage?" One person answered "wine," another "separate bedrooms," and another "my husband’s wireless headphones during football season" (ah yes, the stereotypes and gender roles. My favorite, which was credited to Cecilia Saad of Washington DC, was:

I once asked an elderly neighbor this very same question. He and his wife had been married more than 50 years. He replied, "Oh, my dear, it’s really very simple. My wife and I agreed long ago that I’d make all the big decisions and she’d make all the little decisions. And in all these years together, there just haven’t been any big decisions.

Happy anniversary. And, for those of you who believe in synchronicity, as in Karl Jung’s work (and I do too), this happened to come up today, when we had both forgotten the date.   

2 responses to “The Secret to a Good Marriage”

  1. Raj says:

    This is awesome. Decisions and Relationships are never complex, we make them complex. Happy married life.

  2. Raj says:

    This is awesome. Decisions and Relationships are never complex, we make them complex. Happy married life.

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